“If there’s no inner peace, people can’t give it to you. The husband can’t give it to you. Your children can’t give it to you. You have to give it to you.” —Linda Evans
You are the master of your own life, and I insist that you do not hand over that power to anyone else. Whether it’s the love of your life, wife, parents or children, you should still decide your story. This is the only way you can truly achieve inner peace. Contrary to common belief, inner peace is not something only rich people or Buddhist monks can achieve. All of us deserve inner peace and we can easily get it. The tips I am about to reveal will make you laugh at yourself for not thinking of it sooner. Incorporate it into your life and see how you can change your life.
If any of you are wondering why anyone with inner peace would be broke, you clearly do not understand what inner peace is. So let me break it down for you.
What is Inner Peace?
Inner peace is a self-imposed state of calm or psychological balance even when
People who are not at peace with themselves get easily stressed out, anxious and tend to break down as they are unable to handle their emotions (*cough I don’t do that *cough). Inner peace will help you keep your calm, stay centred and handle your business like the boss you are.
Who needs Inner Peace?
If you think someone does not deserve inner peace, you must really not like that person. It’s integral for us hoomans just like breathing, hydration and filling thy belly. But if you are generally more stressed out or anxious, or have noticed a serious downward shift of your emotional capabilities you may need to start working on achieving inner peace sooner than you think.
How do I get Inner Peace?
Let me just make it clear that I am not any kind of guru, self-help coach or a psychologist (although I do have a Bachelor’s degree in it). I am just a person who went through a challenging period in my life where I had to learn to balance various new aspects of my life. My work, my relationships, my family and my future. What started out as a temp job is about to hit the two-year mark.
I was always a cautious person. I think it is safe to say that I over think situation way more than I should. But for the past year my focus was entirely on doing things and being places, and I never made time for myself. I am not the most social person, I need some alone time to gather my thoughts and do things with myself till I am ready to interact again.
When I wasn’t able to do that, I slowly started to notice that my mental health had started to deteriorate. I would feel the urge to cry even at the slightest provocation, I would cry on streets, buses everywhere. And this was a totally new experience as I do not like crying in front of people, but my emotions just got the best of me during this period. I used to get anxiety attacks every now and then where I couldn’t breathe, take offense quickly and never be able to concentrate on one thing at a time. It took me a while to say enough is enough, I need to get my peace of mind back.
I am still on my road to recovery and when I do achieve total peace of mind, I will be sure to keep you guys posted. But as for now I would like to share some tips t
How To Get Inner Peace If You Are Broke AF
1. Morning Routine (1 hour)
There is a quote that says, “If you win the first hour of the day, you win the day”, and it is one of my
And this tip, although many of you night owls may not agree, believe me, it actually works. I suggest waking up at least one and a half hours before you actually have to be somewhere, and it will change your life.
The recommended time to wake up is between 4:00 a.m. and 8:00 a.m., but if your work starts later, waking up at least one and half hours before you have to leave the house should do the trick. This is assuming it takes you half an hour to get ready. If you take longer you may have to wake up earlier.
During this time try to take toll of your day and really visualize how you want your day to go and do things that will get your productivity and energy levels up. My suggestions: Exercise, reading, making your breakfast, making your bed or any of my other tips can be added to your morning routine. Pick and choose any of the following tips to add to your routine and see how it impacts your mind and your thoughts. Having a solid routine will help you more ready to tackle the day.
2. Affirmation + Gratitude Combo
Now, this is the good stuff. This is one tip that has really had a huge impact on the way I think. Before I started with this activity, I never realized how pessimistic and negative my inner thoughts were. No wonder I was so anxious. For all those of you are wondering what the Affirmation + Gratitude Combo is (I made it a combo because I believe the two go hand in hand) here goes:
Affirmations: They are assertive positive statements you say to yourself once daily or as many times as you want so that your mind understands the changes you wish to bring in to your life. Your affirmations can be as long or as short as you want, but the important thing is to say them daily out loud or in your mind.
Here’s a great example of a simple affirmation: ‘I am strong, I am confident and I am kind’.
You can add or remove any qualities or things you want in your life. Repeating an affirmation like this really gives your mind cues as to how you want to be able to respond to challenging situations in the future. Spend some time daily and concentrate on your affirmations and you will slowly start to see your cues turn into actions.
4. Motivational Videos
I just started this habit out of nowhere, I had not read this as a tip before I started it, but once I did and watched some videos about being a successful and positive person, this one always made it on the list. Watching motivational videos especially in the morning can really help set the tone for your day. Not only you feel motivated, you will also learn something new everyday. When you watch the videos in the morning you also get to apply what you learn to your day. Here are some of my favourite YouTube channels to watch in the morning:
This one is great for anyone who has to spend a lot of time traveling to work, school or college. This is the ideal trick to activate and comfort your mind during your commute time. PODCASTS! You may have heard of it before, but the trick here is to actively choose what you listen to. There are so many great podcasts to listen to and you can access them for free on
Go through the available podcasts select all the informative and helpful podcasts you would like to listen to. One of my
4. Read Books in the Morning or Night
Ah! Remember back when you were a child and you would read books all the time. I know, I know life gets in the way and you find it difficult to keep reading, but that’s really no excuse. Books are the most abundant sources of information. Reading for just 20 minutes in the morning can make you more productive. So get reading.
Here are some recommendations:
- What I Know For Sure – Oprah Winfrey
- Bossypany – Tina Fey
- The Miracle Morning – Hal Elrod
- 5 Second Rule – Mel Robbins
Ah! I bet y’all predicted this one. But it had to be said. Meditation is used as a part of treatment for anxiety, pain, and depression. It is a great way to focus inwards rather than outwards. It helps you focus on your breathing and monitor your thoughts which is a great way to achieve inner peace.
Sit straight with your legs folded, or lie down straight on your back and start meditating. My recommendation for getting started is using the app called Headspace. You get 10 free basic sessions, after which you have to pay a minimal fee. But trust me it is worth it. You will really feel the difference in the way you process your thoughts. I recommend doing it twice a day: once as soon as you wake up and one more time right before you sleep. But
Write that shit down. The most common reason people are unable to be at peace is because they have a tough time processing their emotions and thoughts. Journaling is an excellent way to blurt out all that you are feeling to a neutral and non-judgemental object. Think of your journal as someone that truly wants to listen to you. When you write it down, it can really help you comprehend your thoughts and may even help you realize you may have been stressing over nothing.
And if you want to be environmentally friendly, you can try to find eco-friendly journals or even record yourself by saying how you are feeling during difficult moments. Listening to how you felt may bring back strong emotions but it will also provide clarity, and bring your mind peace. It’s the confusion that causes the chaos, your actual thoughts are just waiting to be processed.
8. To-Do List
If you have a tough time getting things done, I suggest buying a small notebook or downloading a free app like Wunderlist. Now it may be slightly overwhelming when you see the long list of things you have to do, but
Another great way to master the To-do list technique is to pick your top 3 priorities of the day and focus and getting that done. Whatever else can be pushed to the next day, shift it to the next list. This will help you feel accomplished and at peace with yourself at the end of the day.
9. Buy a Planner
Ah having all your tasks, thoughts and priorities in one nifty book
10. Night time Routine
Winding down for the night shouldn’t just involve taking off your pants and flopping onto your bed. It’s rare that you will immediately drift off to sleep this way. Chances are you may spend an hour on your phone before you actually catch
Here are some things you can include in your night-time routine to get peace of mind:
Brush your teeth (duh), wash and moisturize your face, change into your
And since you have been so patient here are some bonus tips just for you.
5 Quick Mood Boosters:
- Music -Pre- Plan your breakdown Playlist
In case you are prone to breakdowns like I was, create a playlist with songs that you know will instantly put you in a good mood.
- Elaborate Skin Care Routine: Get Exfoliated
Invest in some good skin care products, masks, scrubs you name it or just go organic and make masks and scrubs with your kitchen ingredients and treat yourself to a night of self-care.
- Take a Bath or Shower
Take a soothing bath with candles and some essential oils to calm your body and relax your mind. Or take a shower and imagine the hot water washing away all your troubles.
- Pre-plan your Self-Talk during Breakdowns
Again, if you are prone to breakdowns like I was, pre-planning what you will say to yourself when the time comes, can help you gain better control of the situation. Here’s what I say to myself, “I am strong and I will make it through.”
- Write it Down
A great way to change your mood is to word vomit all your thoughts onto a piece of paper. You can keep it for future reference or throw it away, but getting your thoughts off your chest will instantly make you feel better.
I hope you liked this post. If you have any more recommendations for aspiring peace-getters then please do mention and link to them in the comments below. I will personally test them out and if they work for me, I will add them to the post and tag you to it.